The Truth Men Won’t Say Aloud:
A leaky faucet isn’t forgotten—it’s prioritized. His brain weighs:
🔹 Immediate stakes (Your annoyance vs. his work deadline)
🔹 Emotional cost (Feeling like a handyman vs. a provider)
The "3-Tone" Method That Works:
The Acknowledgment Tone
"I know you’re swamped with [specific project] right now..."
→ Validates his real priorities (disarms defensiveness)
The Team Tone
"Maybe we can look at it together this weekend?"
→ "We" implies shared responsibility (not his failure)
The Trust Tone
"Whenever you think it’s time—you always know best."
→ Activates his protector instinct (not his guilt)
